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To my best friend…

Clayton’s – The Drink You Have, When You’re Not Having A Drink.

People who don’t know me don’t think I have a problem making friends. Yet, most of my life, I’ve been a “Clayton’s Friend”…the friend you have when you don’t have a friend. This was never intentional on my part, and I don’t mean I never had friends, I had (and have) quite a lot of friends. It’s just that I’ve always been the ‘back up friend’…when best friends had a falling out, Or one was away, I was the replacement, or temporary friend, until they made up, then I was out in the cold again.

There have been periods of my life where this wasn’t the case, but overall…well, it is what it is.

Tusk has been the glaring exception to this. This amazing guy who I met the day I turned 17, has stood by me, stood up for me, supported me, carried me. This guy who just ‘got’ me. Swept me off my feet.

It was a whirlwind romance of 5 weeks when we got engaged. And 5 months til we were married. And you know what? I wouldn’t change any part if that story.

It seems cliched to say we’ve never had much, but we have always had each other, but it’s true.

You still make my heart flutter. I love you. You are my best friend. Thank you for the last twenty five years, and I look forward to forever with you. xx

Add a comment January 7, 2015

Excuses, Excuses, Excuses

A few months ago there was a huge internet storm after Maria Kang, self described “FitMom”, posted a photo of herself and her children with the words “What’s Your Excuse?” plastered over it.
Now I know she wasn’t the first person to use that phrase, and she certainly hasn’t been the last. And hats off to her that she can exercise and eat well and raise her kids, and keep her household running and run her business. That’s great.
However, something has bugged me since the furor erupted, and it took me a bit to realise what it was.
I have to say I HATE the phrase “What’s your excuse?” Particularly the use of the word excuse. The term excuse immediately acts to invalidate a genuine reason. And yes, while the phrase may be technically correct, the tone it is offered in is always one of self righteousness – “If I can do it, then you should be able to.” It shows no empathy for others. No understanding or compassion.
I’ve heard colleagues say it: I can do X job and Y job, and all the filing, mopping, broadcasting and rocket building – what’s your excuse?
I’ve heard writers say it: I can work full time, raise a family, run a marathon, cook a gourmet meal and knock out a novel by lunchtime – what’s your excuse?
Because if they can do it then obviously anyone can.
It’s a selfish, arrogant and dismissive thing to say! No one truly knows another persons circumstances. No two people have the exact same circumstances, so what works for one person may be totally ineffective or unsustainable or unobtainable for another. And branding a persons reasons as an “excuse”, belittles those circumstances.
Personally, I think it’s the equivalent of telling a depressed person to “get over it” or “cheer up”. It’s not helpful, it’s harmful. It’s like saying “I broke up with my partner and I’m fine, so what are you moping about?”

ETA: All of the above is addressing the fact that you might actually be striving for the same thing as the person commenting. As Alisa says, “…the other thing that bugged me about it was implication that we want what she/they have.” And THAT is a whole other issue.

Add a comment January 28, 2014

“Just ‘Coz” day

I have the most awesome friends and today they declared it was “Just ‘Coz” day.

I don’t celebrate birthdays. Or Christmas. Or Easter. Or Mother’s Day, Valentines Day etc, etc…..And my friends and family that do celebrate, and know I don’t, respect me enough to neither give me presents or expect presents from me.

What I do believe in and celebrate though, is “Just ‘Coz” day. I love “Just ‘Coz” day – it says “I saw this and thought of you!” I think it’s personal, and meaningful. It also sneaks up on you in wonderful ways, and surprises you when you least expect it.

Today, Alisa and Tehani surprised me with the most gorgeous napery set, covered in colorful macarons. (From one of my favourite brands, no less.)
Just add pearls for an instant 50's housewife

And, as an added bonus, it’s trimmed in Twelfth Planet Press pink.

Add a comment May 6, 2013

Meeting Parp

My paternal grandfather, Parp, died just before I was born, so I never knew him. By all accounts he was a larrikin, and a storyteller, and my dad is just like him. Before he died though, my aunt convinced him to write down some of his anecdotes and experiences of life as a pioneer in the Pilbara.

My aunt was the family historian  – she was the one who researched the family tree, and I think she had intentions of doing something with these recollections but time got away from her. It seems they may have sat in her office for decades, because when she passed almost two years ago my cousins found the half edited notes and decided to finish what she had started.

And so, at Katink’s funeral last week, all the siblings, cousins, nieces and nephews received their own copy of the book they had put together.Image

It’s full of Parp’s photos and remembrances, albeit some not quite politically correct now days, stories of station life, and even some stories about his father.

And this is my favourite photo in the book! My dad is the toddler. He is 86 now.Image

And so now I get to know Parp, just a little. And so do my kids.

1 comment December 30, 2012

In which I have a heart attack…well almost

I haven’t been overly well for quite a while, and then a few weeks ago I had a good old fashioned “funny turn”. It involved fainting and prolonged dizziness and a few other symptoms. (Some of which had been around for a while and deliberately ignored.) And led to quite a bit of medical investigating. And some not altogether pleasant results.

Of course, any sensible person would realise they should probably slow down in what they’re doing, but nooo, I’ve never been accused of being sensible. In fact, this seemed to be a trigger into ramping things up. I decided it’d be a fun idea to hold a quiz night, (and it was!) but at the same time I also got talked into increasing my hours at work. Now generally I do around twenty hours a week, and that suits me just fine. I have the weekend, two full week days and two afternoons off. Suddenly my hours are almost double and I wonder my I feel like I’m losing my grip on things?! 

A few years ago I started to live by the One Four Formula {OFF} – 1 thing a day. 4 things a week. Initially it meant I only had the spoons to do one thing a day – shopping, meeting, housework, service, coffee date – with a limit of four things a week. Anything more than that, particularly on a consistent basis, would see me in floods of tears on the couch for days at a stretch.

Over time I’ve been able to increase what I do,but I still kind of hold to the OFF. Now though, it refers to extraneous activities. Things like work, meetings, housework and service don’t really count. Well, not when I’m doing my regular work hours they don’t, at the moment I’m finding they do! and then some. 

What this means is I’m struggling to find time to do the things *I* like. It feels like I haven’t cooked or baked in FOREVER…at least not in a justcoz capacity. I’m battling to catch up with friends and family, and there are a few that I really need to touch base with that I haven’t, and so the guilt from that is also piling on.

I just have to make it through December. There is a light at the end of this tunnel and it’s called JANUARY!

1 comment December 2, 2012

It’s all about me!

I’ve had an insanely busy week, and the fortnight ahead is not looking much better. I’m not sure that I’m not getting something because I ache all over, and I feel exhausted.

So, I decided today would be for me. I am going to spend this afternoon doing “me” things. After getting the important things accomplished (meeting, and then Doctor Who) I’ve reached a problem. I’m so far behind I have a list a mile long of fun stuff I want to do that I’m a little overwhelmed and have no idea where to start, so I’m in danger of either sitting on the couch doing nothing, or wasting this opportunity on something like housework!

  • Baking (any one of about eight cakes I have planned. Or even just a cake Because I Can!)
  • Mass Effect replay – I was hoping to get through this series replay by next Friday (new game day) but that is so not going to happen!
  • Sleep (Because why not?)
  • Blogging (WW series, the Cupcake adventure or a few other posts…oh, hey, guess what?!)

Now what?

Add a comment September 30, 2012


Here’s a riddle:

What requires an electric drill, pliers, a grinder, a trowel, hammer and nails and a heat gun, 75 eggs, 2.5 kilos of chocolate, and a bottle of Drambuie get you?



13 kilos of yummy wedding cake goodness.

Behind the scenes stuff under the cut…lots of photos.


5 comments July 22, 2012

Continuum overview

So, Continuum was this weekend. No real lowlights, lots of highlights.

My biggest disappointment was not getting to the Melbourne Museum to see the Mesopotamia Exhibition. And that was because I was too busy having fun elsewhere.

My convention experience was pretty low key and relatively stress free. I had two main purposes for attending – to catch up with friends, and to help Alisa with Twelfth Planet. And I achieved most of that. I had hoped to be able to pop down to Launceston for a quick visit to Tehani but that didn’t happen, which was really disappointing.

My biggest day was always going to be Friday, when I embarked on my cupcake adventure but that deserves a post all on its own, and I’ll try and do that later tonight or tomorrow.

The rest of the time was spent either socialising, or looking after the TPP table where we employed the motto WWTD What Would Tehani Do? this seems to have been a successful tactic as we sold out of so many books! In fact, by the end we had none of the Twelve Planets left at all. This was a Good Thing, not least because we had been so overweight in our luggage coming over.

So for me there were lots of late (laaaaaate) nights, amazing people, and inspirational conversations.

1 comment June 12, 2012


I’ve posted some thoughts on awards over at

Add a comment April 12, 2012

One of those days….

I had a full on day at work today. I knew it was going to be hard – my boss had asked me to spend today and tomorrow in the reserve area sorting it out. So I’ve been shifting dinner sets all day  talk about a weights workout.

So tonight I am totally shattered. I wanted a drink, a spa and an early night. So, why am I still up?

Well let’s see, first I forgot to turn the spa off and flooded the ensuite and a good square metre or more of the bedroom carpet.

Then, in my hurry to stem the flow, I accidentally let nearly *all* the water go from the spa. So I had to to refill it – and I *know* I way over used my quota of water today. (Sorry!) But I really needed to have a spa or I won’t be able to move tomorrow.

So I did. And I felt so much better. And then, while I was relaxing, there was an almighty crash from the kitchen. It turns out that the deep fryer decided to spontaneously jump off the bench spilling ~3 litres of oil across the floor.

And every spare towel was already soaking from the bathroom incident. I’ve washed the floor once. I’m about to do it again, and I hope that will suffice until tomorrow.

And then the cat threw up…

2 comments February 20, 2012


I’ve Said It Once…

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